Showing posts with label passion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label passion. Show all posts
Friday, January 1, 2016
More or Less...Some Resolutions
Happy New Year! It's a Sweet 16 year, y'all. This millennium can drive now! Really, if this year was a teenager, this year would be a sophomore in high school. No longer the baby of the bunch, but not completely wise to the ways of the hallway. Not looked down on because of youth, but not looked up to for wisdom. This Sweet 16 year is somewhere in the middle. Maybe going on a first date. Maybe getting a first kiss. Oh! The possibilities for the next 365 days!
As we go into this New Year, I'm going to try and look at it with a new and youthful outlook. I'm going to set my goals with the innocence and bewilderment that I can reach those goals
Monday, December 21, 2015
Dancing in the Kitchen
Photo by Joann Comeens
I ask if there is anything I can do. I really mean it, too. Of course, I have been sitting here doing nothing for ten minutes. She calls me hon and reminds me she does this every day. She tells me I’m fine just where I sit. Her sweet smile tells me she really means it, too.
So, I watch and sip my coffee. Good, strong coffee, too. Not that fancy coffee from the corner place. But then, here, there is no corner place. Small-town Alabama doesn’t have corner places.
She checks the bacon. It’s cooking on one of those indoor grills that boxer guy sells on television late at night. I wonder if she saw it when she couldn’t sleep or if someone else saw it and gave it to her for her birthday, or Christmas. Probably Mother’s Day. The bacon’s fine.
She moves across the floor. A measuring cup pours flour into a mixing bowl. A bit of milk, a pinch of salt (or maybe it’s a dash). Baking powder – the one with the girl on the can, I’m almost certain. Now, with the bowl in the crook of her left arm, and a fork in her right hand, she stirs vigorously until there is dough – sticky, but not wet. Her small hand spreads enough flour on the counter to keep the dough from sticking and begins to knead. A small, round cutter forms biscuits that go straight onto a baking sheet and right into the oven.
Back to check the bacon. A few flips of the wrist and all the strips are sizzling on the flip side.
I like my eggs fried, over-medium, so that’s what I tell her when she asks. A small skillet. A little shortening. Not oil – actual shortening. She says she’s not sure how the eggs will turn out, but she’ll try. I know they’ll be wonderful, and I tell her so.
Grits are a southern staple. My mouth is watering already. She measures water into the pan and adds the ground corn. The water boils, the ground corn becomes soft. She adds butter and salt. I wonder if it really can get much better than this.
The bacon is done. She moves it onto a plate near the stove to keep it warm while the eggs cook. She makes fried eggs, over-medium, for each of us girls. He likes his scrambled. He eats them the same way every day. I tell her she should have told me he was having scrambled and I would have had the same. I don’t want to put you out. She smiles and says if she didn’t want to know how I like my eggs, she wouldn’t have asked. She eats hers hard boiled.
She spoons the grits into a bowl that goes directly into the center of the table next to the bacon. She sets each plate with eggs in front of each of us. Jelly – apple, strawberry, peach, plum – all homemade, all stored in the jelly cabinet, for the biscuits. Oh, the biscuits. Hot, soft, delicate. She asks if we need anything – more coffee? Juice? Milk? I’m not a milk drinker, but I do take more coffee.
She moves to the table and finally joins us. She passes the biscuits. There is grace in those biscuits – her warm hug, her easy laugh, her gentle way – all right there on the table to share with us. As I fill my plate, I know, yes, I am just fine where I sit. It’s the finest seat in the house. Front row, center. I am in the audience for one of the most beautiful dances I’ve ever seen. I almost weep. I don’t know if I will ever again see a dance so breathtaking.
Much love and lots of biscuits,
~ME:)
Much love and lots of biscuits,
~ME:)
Thursday, October 1, 2015
Why I Wear Pink in October
In case there is anyone still out there who doesn't know, October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. It's a pretty big deal, really. EVERYONE wants in on the PINK. We have Pink Out Nights during our Friday Night Lights. Firefighters & police officers all over the place are wearing pink t-shirts. There's the National Breast Cancer Foundation and the Susan G. Komen organization. You can buy pink ribbons, pink headbands, pink necklaces, pink t-shirts, pink koozies and pink license plates. Heck, even the NFL gets in on it with their players wearing pink cleats. And yes, I wear pink in October.
Some of you may be asking yourselves, "Does she wear teal in September for ovarian cancer, or blue in March for colorectal cancer, or white in November for lung cancer?" No. I do not specifically wear those colors for those cancers. Should I? Maybe. Probably. Yes. But for now, I don't. But I'll tell you why I do wear pink in October.
It's about women and cancer. I am a woman and I hate cancer. Cancer is a hateful and horrible and indiscriminate disease. Cancer doesn't care who you are, where you're from, what you do for a living, whether you're married or not, how many children you do or don't have, or whether you prefer Dr Pepper or Coca-Cola. Oh, and cancer really doesn't have an opinion on whether to attack a woman's ovaries, her cervix, her lungs, her brain, her bones or her breasts. The moment a woman hears "you have cancer," where the cancer has taken up residence in her body isn't much the issue. The "where" will become important, because some cancers are more receptive to treatment than others. But what does that have to do with why I wear pink in October?
I wear pink in October to Save the Boobies! Why the boobies and not the ovaries? Well, because boobies are glamorous. They're fascinating and alluring. We can see them. They're right there in front of everything. Everybody knows about boobies. Ovaries? Do you even know where they are? Of course you do. That was a joke. Really, though, in the wide world of things anatomical, ovaries aren't just right out there for us to think about. Seldom do people talk about saving the ovaries. Save the Boobies - that's where it's at.
I wear pink in October to remind women to get a mammogram. And, if you give a mom a mammogram, she's gonna get all kinds of other tests. (Not just moms, of course, it just sounded more fun that way.) Because a trip to the doctor to get the order for a mammogram is more than just that. Usually, that annual doctor visit is an exam to check for cervical cancer. It's a time to talk about those weird things that have been going on in the past few months in one's "lady-life" that could lead to a test for ovarian cancer. It's a really good time to ask about that spot on the back that's been itchy and changing colors and maybe get a biopsy to check for melanoma. Early detection is the key to cancer survival, so Save the Boobies can Save a Life. That's why I wear pink in October.
As a volunteer with the American Cancer Society and Relay For Life, I fight the fight and put forth the effort to raise money to fund research to find a cure for all cancers. I share information with those who have all cancers about services that can make their lives a little easier. I help to educate others about ways to protect themselves from certain cancers. I am an advocate for those who cannot advocate for themselves. I don't discriminate in my fight against cancer - I'm against all cancers. I hate cancer. That's why I wear pink in October.
If you haven't had one this year, schedule your annual exam today, and wear pink in October.
Much love and lots of PINK,
~ME:)
P.S. - If you also hate cancer, and you'd like to make a donation towards cancer research, education, advocacy and services, click <here> to check out my Relay For Life website.
Monday, July 13, 2015
Build me Up Buttercup
Over the past little while, I've been privileged to hang out with some really incredible women. Amazing women. Unbelievable women. I don't mean women I'm fond of, or women I enjoy hanging out with. I'm talking about seriously fantastic women. They are each the kind of woman that I strive to be.
Don't get me wrong. I don't want to BE these women. Oh, bless their hearts, they have their own struggles and issues and inconsistencies. We all have our own, and I'll take mine over theirs any day. That's not what I mean at all. What I know about each of these women is that each of them has the ability to make me feel great about myself, and THAT is what it's all about. They don't just make me feel special, they make the other women in their lives feel great about themselves, as well. I want to be the kind of daughter, sister, mother, friend, colleague and associate that makes people feel better about themselves.
Now, when I get together with these ladies, we don't just sit around talking about how pretty and smart and clever we are. (Well, except for my sister and me. We do that - but only because our Daddy told us we are the prettiest and smartest girls he's ever seen. And, if our Daddy said it, it must be true.) No, it's more than that, and I've been doing a lot of thinking about what it is exactly.
I wasn't sure exactly how to determine what it is, so I Googled "how to make others feel better about themselves," just to see if anything stuck out. I came across this list from Happiness Weekly. Turns out, it's a pretty good list, although, for the women I know, I'd rearrange it a little and put Smile at People, Show Genuine Interest and Encourage People When You Can as the top three. And, in that order. These ladies are nearly always smiling, even plenty of times when things are necessarily going their way. They do show an interest in what others are doing. And, they encourage everyone in their lives to do great things.
That list still doesn't really pinpoint what it is that's so great about these ladies. But, I think I've finally figured it out. These ladies rarely say anything negative about anyone else. That's what makes me feel special around them. They are spending their time, thoughts and emotions looking for the good in most people. They aren't trash talking, or putting down, or gossiping about other people they know. And that makes me feel comfortable knowing that they're not saying negative things about me to others. If they're telling me how great their other friends are, and I'm in the same friend category, then I must be great, too!
Unfortunately, I've spent some time with a few people whose main topic of conversation has been the bad parts of other people's lives. In some instances, I've heard terrible stories about people I don't even know! I don't really understand why some people feel the need to tell me about strangers' shortcomings.
Now, I don't choose to hang out on a regular basis with people who behave this way, so they're clearly not close friends. So, for a while, I thought remaining silent through the conversation would be the way to go. Then, I tried to steer the conversation back to something positive. You know, ask them to tell me more about themselves (most everyone likes to talk about themselves!). But nope, still kept going back to Derogatory City.
Eventually, I found the opportunity to remove myself from the conversation, but I was left with a bad feeling in my soul. I believe remaining silent was not the right thing to do. I feel like I should have stood up for those poor souls whose dirty laundry was being flown around like kites. And, I suspect I will from now on.
None of us are perfect, and we all have bad days, and we're all sometimes treated terribly by others. So we'll all slip up and let Negative Nelly take over our thoughts and our tongues. Hopefully, those times are few and far between. I hope you have a group of ladies who can make you feel as extraordinary as my group of ladies makes me feel. And, I really, most importantly, hope that I make YOU feel exceptional, too.
Much love,
~ME:)
Thursday, July 3, 2014
Fitness Friday - Dear Bathroom Scale...
Dear Bathroom Scale,
I'm sorry, but it's just not working out between us. We've been together for years, I know. But, it's time for me to move on. I feel like there's this incredible weight between us. I think you feel it, too. It's not you. It's me.
Ok...I'll be honest. It IS you. I always feel like our conversations are so heavy. Really, you should lighten up a little. You probably don't even realize you're doing it, but lately every time we are together, you make me feel bad about myself. Well, not really bad, but certainly not good. I just get so frustrated, because I'm trying and trying to better our relationship, but you just don't seem to want to change. I guess it wasn't always that way. I do remember better times. Years ago. But that was then.
I guess I started noticing something was wrong in our relationship about a year and a half ago, after I started going to the gym. Since then, you just really have nothing encouraging to say to me. I mean, I do cardio. I do calisthenics. I lift weights. I run, for goodness sakes. And still, you can't be even a little supportive? I'm not asking for something spectacular all at once. I know you. But a little something nice every week or so would be great.
This is how it has to be. I'm moving on. I'm setting goals that have nothing to do with you. For instance, I plan on running (not run/walking) three miles by the end of July. I'm going to do pull-ups. I currently cannot do one pull-up, but I'm working on that every day, so I'll be doing five in a row soon. Yesterday, I did a wall sit for two minutes. I'm going for three minutes by the end of next week. As I reach each of these goals, I'll set another one in its place. In doing so, I'll increase muscle mass, and I'll tighten and tone all the jiggly parts. And, I'll feel great - physically and emotionally. I'll be better for it, and I won't have to listen to your negative vibes.
Do I want to keep running back to you week after week? Yes, of course I do. But I realize it's not healthy for me. So, you can stay right there in the bathroom where you've been. That's fine. Just don't expect me to associate with you while I'm in there. No. We can't just be friends.
Sincerely,
~ME:)
PS - stop harassing my friends, too!
Friday, March 8, 2013
Why I Relay
I told you before that as we go along, you will learn about my passions. Well, I might as well start now. I'll do this one at a time, and I'll spread them out over time..just to keep things interesting.
One of my biggest passions is the American Cancer Society's Relay For Life. It is the largest fundraiser in the world for the ACS. Everyone involved in Relay For Life has a "reason to Relay." Mine is an ever changing story. I started Relaying in 2005, when my friend, Stephanie Couch (that's her on the left), was battling ovarian cancer. In 2005, she was my reason.
Stephanie was a spectacular woman. She was kind and generous and loving and hilarious. We worked in the same office and in a short time we became great friends. She loved her family and her friends with all her heart. She laughed at the same crazy and inappropriate things that I laughed at. She had horrible jokes, that you couldn't help but laugh at. (Yeah, I know, birds of a feather and all.) Our desks faced one another for a while and we could peek around our monitors and keep each other laughing all day. (The "powers that be" did finally change up that particular seating arrangement. It was like being in school again.)
She started having some stomach issues and some "female" issues. After tests and more tests, those issues found a name. I remember her coming back to work and telling us it was ovarian cancer. I remember not knowing what to expect from that, but that we were all really positive. If anyone could beat this, it was Steph. With her attitude, she could beat anything. Lots of people had cancer and survived it. We had no idea.
Treatments made it seem like it went away. A complete hysterectomy made it seem like they got it all. Stephanie's attitude made it seem like she was winning this battle. She wasn't. She got the call at work and made the doctor just tell her right then (she was persuasive that way). It was back. And it was mad.
Because the cancer was so angry and so aggressive, she had to have serious chemotherapy treatments. She suffered through them like a trooper, keeping her attitude as positive as she could through the sickness and the pain of it all. At least her hair wasn't falling out. Until it did.
I remember that day like it was yesterday. It was Halloween, and Steph, being a huge fan of Halloween and always having clever costumes, was dressed in an all pink sweatsuit, with sprayed pink hair. She had a sneaker tied to the top of her head. She was a piece of bubble gum stuck to the bottom of a shoe. I'm telling you, she was funny!
What wasn't funny was when Stephanie noticed that there was something pink and kind of fuzzy on the floor. And there was some of it on her desk. And there was some of it on her keyboard. And when she picked it up, she realized it was her hair - her pink hair that she sprayed just that morning so she would be bubble gum. That's what I remember most about it all. How that pink hair just kept falling. I'm not even sure I can describe the feeling I had, much less describe how she must have felt. I know that it was heartbreaking and that the vision crept deep into my soul where, I believe, it will remain forever.
In the spring of 2005, another friend at work, Summer, brought us information about this Relay For Life thing. We didn't know much about it, but we knew that it gave us something real we could do to honor our friend. So we put together a team and we raised some money. We went to that Relay and we stayed up all night at the football field. We cried and we laughed. We drank the Kool-Aid.
In 2006, the demon that is ovarian cancer took my friend. It took her from her husband who loved her oh-so-very much. It took her from her children who adored her. It took her from so many who knew how special she was. It took her from me.
In 2005 at Relay For Life, I was a Team Member. Then I became a Committee Member, and then a Team Captain, and then the Event Chair and now I'm the Marketing & Communications Chair. My "reason to Relay" started with Stephanie. Then it was (and still is) my Aunt Margaret, who has been battling lymphoma for more than ten years. But now, the purple Kool-Aid runs through my blood and my "reason to Relay" has grown to something vast. Now, I Relay for YOU!
I know YOU have been touched in one way or another by cancer. I have learned so much over the past eight years about how the American Cancer Society can help in so many situations, and I am willing to share that knowledge with YOU at any possible opportunity. Whether YOU are the person reading this, or the clerk at the Post Office, or the gentleman I met in line at the grocery store a few months ago, I Relay for YOU. As they say at the ACS, "Having cancer is hard, finding help shouldn't be." Let ME help YOU find help.
There is an official mission statement that goes like this: The American Cancer Society Relay For Life represents the hope that those lost to cancer will never be forgotten, that those who face cancer will be supported, and that one day cancer will be eliminated. That about sums up why we do it - those of us who have drank the purple Kool-Aid. We're in it for the duration and just can't leave, because we believe we will not forget those we have lost...we believe we will support those who are facing diagnoses and treatment...we BELIEVE that one day cancer will be eliminated.
Thank you for reading this all the way to the end.
Psalm 147:3
Much love and many blessings to you,
~ME:)
Are you thinking to yourself, "if only there was something I could do?" If you are, then YES! there is. You can make a donation to Relay For Life by visiting my Relay site... http://main.acsevents.org/goto/maryellentx. For your donation, I thank you.
One of my biggest passions is the American Cancer Society's Relay For Life. It is the largest fundraiser in the world for the ACS. Everyone involved in Relay For Life has a "reason to Relay." Mine is an ever changing story. I started Relaying in 2005, when my friend, Stephanie Couch (that's her on the left), was battling ovarian cancer. In 2005, she was my reason.
Stephanie was a spectacular woman. She was kind and generous and loving and hilarious. We worked in the same office and in a short time we became great friends. She loved her family and her friends with all her heart. She laughed at the same crazy and inappropriate things that I laughed at. She had horrible jokes, that you couldn't help but laugh at. (Yeah, I know, birds of a feather and all.) Our desks faced one another for a while and we could peek around our monitors and keep each other laughing all day. (The "powers that be" did finally change up that particular seating arrangement. It was like being in school again.)
She started having some stomach issues and some "female" issues. After tests and more tests, those issues found a name. I remember her coming back to work and telling us it was ovarian cancer. I remember not knowing what to expect from that, but that we were all really positive. If anyone could beat this, it was Steph. With her attitude, she could beat anything. Lots of people had cancer and survived it. We had no idea.
Treatments made it seem like it went away. A complete hysterectomy made it seem like they got it all. Stephanie's attitude made it seem like she was winning this battle. She wasn't. She got the call at work and made the doctor just tell her right then (she was persuasive that way). It was back. And it was mad.
Because the cancer was so angry and so aggressive, she had to have serious chemotherapy treatments. She suffered through them like a trooper, keeping her attitude as positive as she could through the sickness and the pain of it all. At least her hair wasn't falling out. Until it did.
I remember that day like it was yesterday. It was Halloween, and Steph, being a huge fan of Halloween and always having clever costumes, was dressed in an all pink sweatsuit, with sprayed pink hair. She had a sneaker tied to the top of her head. She was a piece of bubble gum stuck to the bottom of a shoe. I'm telling you, she was funny!
What wasn't funny was when Stephanie noticed that there was something pink and kind of fuzzy on the floor. And there was some of it on her desk. And there was some of it on her keyboard. And when she picked it up, she realized it was her hair - her pink hair that she sprayed just that morning so she would be bubble gum. That's what I remember most about it all. How that pink hair just kept falling. I'm not even sure I can describe the feeling I had, much less describe how she must have felt. I know that it was heartbreaking and that the vision crept deep into my soul where, I believe, it will remain forever.
In the spring of 2005, another friend at work, Summer, brought us information about this Relay For Life thing. We didn't know much about it, but we knew that it gave us something real we could do to honor our friend. So we put together a team and we raised some money. We went to that Relay and we stayed up all night at the football field. We cried and we laughed. We drank the Kool-Aid.
In 2006, the demon that is ovarian cancer took my friend. It took her from her husband who loved her oh-so-very much. It took her from her children who adored her. It took her from so many who knew how special she was. It took her from me.
In 2005 at Relay For Life, I was a Team Member. Then I became a Committee Member, and then a Team Captain, and then the Event Chair and now I'm the Marketing & Communications Chair. My "reason to Relay" started with Stephanie. Then it was (and still is) my Aunt Margaret, who has been battling lymphoma for more than ten years. But now, the purple Kool-Aid runs through my blood and my "reason to Relay" has grown to something vast. Now, I Relay for YOU!
I know YOU have been touched in one way or another by cancer. I have learned so much over the past eight years about how the American Cancer Society can help in so many situations, and I am willing to share that knowledge with YOU at any possible opportunity. Whether YOU are the person reading this, or the clerk at the Post Office, or the gentleman I met in line at the grocery store a few months ago, I Relay for YOU. As they say at the ACS, "Having cancer is hard, finding help shouldn't be." Let ME help YOU find help.
There is an official mission statement that goes like this: The American Cancer Society Relay For Life represents the hope that those lost to cancer will never be forgotten, that those who face cancer will be supported, and that one day cancer will be eliminated. That about sums up why we do it - those of us who have drank the purple Kool-Aid. We're in it for the duration and just can't leave, because we believe we will not forget those we have lost...we believe we will support those who are facing diagnoses and treatment...we BELIEVE that one day cancer will be eliminated.
Thank you for reading this all the way to the end.
Psalm 147:3
Much love and many blessings to you,
~ME:)
Are you thinking to yourself, "if only there was something I could do?" If you are, then YES! there is. You can make a donation to Relay For Life by visiting my Relay site... http://main.acsevents.org/goto/maryellentx. For your donation, I thank you.
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